What a cliche. Call it having my ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ moment with more emphasis on the ‘eating’ and ‘love’ of what I’m eating and ‘praying’ for more of it.
This time last year I would never have guessed I’d be in Italy and having left London.
There are a number of factors that lead to this decision for me. In no particular order:
- My best mate returned to Australia to pursue his dream of playing music.
- I’m going to be 30 this year.
- I was born in Italy, have Italian family, an Italian passport and can’t speak Italian fluently – it’s embarrassing.
- I want to live in another European country.
- I want to leave London loving it.
See in my head I had everything sorted. My life in London was perfect. I had a job that I absolutely adored and the tightest friendship group anyone could hope for. As time goes on things begin to change and we start looking for the next thing. I generally don’t know where the past 3 years in London went. It felt like yesterday I arrived with zero cash and couch surfing at friends places while I found a job.
So what drives a change like this? For me, it was a conversation I had with one of my mentors whilst in London. He asked me one day:
‘Benny, when you’re on your death bed, what are the 2 things you will regret not doing in your life?’
How easily do we forget/choose to ignore the fact of our own mortality? We all know we’re going to die yet we choose to live life as if we’re going to live forever. So this question really got me thinking about that moment before I die and the things I would regret not doing. I got to an abbreviated list:
- Speak Italian – I want a deeper relationship with my Italian family and the ability to teach my children Italian.
- Live in Amsterdam – From the first time I went there I felt connected to it somehow and knew I needed to explore that feeling.
This whole concept is beautifully summarised in this short video by Sam Harris. Watch it and let me know what you think.
I decided to move to Bologna which deserves a separate post in itself and 4 months on I’m now moving to Amsterdam! I’ve decided to aggressively do those things I’ve always wanted to do with my life. I mean, what’s the alternative?